#86 Accelerated Learning, part 2

In this podcast, we bring back the theme of accelerated learning that we started way back in one of our first episodes, now approaching it from a totally new angle and with the new learnings and experiences that we ourselves have learned in the meantime:

• What is learning?
  • What takes time in learning is “not getting it” (Marshall Thurber)
  • “Phase change,” or transformational learning, in contrast to “slow learning”
  • The tipping point in learning
• Examples of accelerated learning
  • Learning NLP techniques – finding the bigger structure
  • Ballroom dancing – exploring the space of mistakes
  • Strategy to execution
• What people remember?
  • The first thing, the last thing, and any strongly emotional moments in between
  • Structuring learning in smaller chunks
  • Segmented learning
  • Constructing stories
• Examples of learning through stories
• Different kinds of learning
  • Academic
  • Experiential
• Games – making learning fun
• Closing remarks
  • Making games on the fly
  • Look for humor
  • Learning as new ways to have fun
  • “Mischief accomplished!”

#79 Pattern Thinking, part 4

• Where do we find new patterns
  • Mythology
  • Spiral Dynamics
  • Modeling (NLP)
  • Artificial Intelligence
• Strict, probabilistic and Fuzzy logic
• Science patterns
• Techniques for shifting patterns
  • Trying first in a safe context
  • Dance, relationships, school, classes
  • For future-oriented, look for the shortest path, make as many mistakes as possible. Learn from the shock.
• Patterns of Empires

#78 Pattern Thinking, part 3

• Somatic patterns
  • Martial arts
  • Dancing
• Biological patterns
• Linguistic patterns
  • NLP: Meta-model, Milton model, Sleight of mouth patterns
  • Priming
• Habits
• Relationship patterns
• Spotting patterns
  • Asking for help and going for diversity
  • Intent and attention

#77 Pattern Thinking, part 2

• High-level structure of patterns
  • Context
  • Sequence, Syntax
  • Time scale
  • Triggers
• Types of patterns – Unconscious signals
  • Personal unconscious signals
  • Cultural unconscious signals – Time and Space

#76 Pattern Thinking, part 1

• What are patterns
  • Science: map of the world, theory
  • Structure wih a specific rhythm and beat
  • Mythology: Frank Herbert’s quote
  • Usefulness: patterns are everywhere, which ones we care about?
  • Repetition of a structure, sequence
• Patterns in Self
  • Personal growth
  • Where you are, where you are going, and how to get there
• Patterns in Relationships
• Patterns in large systems
  • Business, politics
• Why spotting patterns is important
  • Survival
• Usefulness and dangers of patterns
  • Saves you CPU cycles
  • Learn from prior generations
  • Automated thinking, robotizing
  • Distinction: who has control – you over pattern, or pattern over you
  • Patterns help to survive, but too much pattern kills adaptation, which leads to extinction
  • Context of war: make sure you spot your patterns before your opponent does
  • Context of personal growth: use your friends / teachers to spot your patterns
  • Whose patterns are these? Where did you get them from? Do they work for you?

#70 Reframing

Reframing (Wikipedia) – Another meaning or another sense is assigned by reframing a situation or context, thus sees a situation in another frame. A frame can refer to a belief, what limits our view of the world. If we let this limiting belief go, new conceptions and interpretation possibilities can develop.

This episode is framed by the following topics:

• What is reframing?
  • Changing the frame
  • Changing the way you look at it
• Examples of reframes
• Where reframes are useful?
  • Business: it’s not the best product that wins, but the one that communicates the best
  • Relationships: Freedom to change my or other’s perspective
  • Getting unstuck
• Structure of reframing
  • Content reframing
  • Context reframing
  • 6-step reframing
• Reframing in personal growth
  • Midlife crisis – getting laid off and starting out from scratch
  • Real example – someone survived a car and plane crash, got paralysed and burned, and ran for the senate
  • “Murderball” – a documentary on quadruplegics playing professional wheel-chair version of football
• Reframing in relationships
• Reframing in organizations

#43 Language Series 07: Sleight of Mouth Patterns - part 3

In this episode we are concluding the Sleight of Mouth patterns with the Alogical, or as we also call it Analogical, or Metaphorical SOM pattern.

• The Alogical SOM Pattern
  • Utilizes many different skills – metaphorical, hypnotic, by-passes logical objections
• 3 examples of the alogical pattern
• Explanations of the metaphors
• How do we use alogical SOM pattern in real life
• The Ultimate SOM Pattern

[techtags: NLP, Language, Sleigh of Mouth]

#42 Language Series 06: Sleight of Mouth Patterns - part 2

In this episode, we explain and give examples of the “neurological” SOM patterns, the second class of SOMs in our classification.

• Neurological Levels and SOM
  • SOM at the level of intent – capture the fort and rule the territory
  • Any level higher than the level of the problem can solve the problem
• Examples of using neurological levels – three examples of limiting beliefs and an application of the SOM pattern.
• Exercises
• Changing the frame size (level of detail): chunk up / chunk down
  • What it is, and three examples of SOM

[techtags: NLP, Language, Sleigh of Mouth]

#41 Language Series 05: Sleight of Mouth Patterns - part 1

From Wikipedia: Ultimately, Sleight of Mouth focuses on influence by challenging, and thus changing, beliefs. […] in Sleight of Mouth the concept of belief is built on a more specific set of definitions, as follows:

• Complex Equivalence: X=Y, or X is equivalent to Y
• Cause-Effect: X causes Y, X results in Y

In this episode, we define the sleight of mouth patterns, introduce our own classification, and show the first group of these patterns – the “logical” SOM.

• What are SOMs?
  • Verbal Aiki – Flowing, harmonizing
  • If meta-model is about getting information, SOM is utilizing and directionalizing it
• Our categorization of SOM
  • Logical SOM
  • Neurological SOM
  • Alogical SOM
• History of SOM patterns
  • Robert Dilts modeling and codifying Richard Bandler
• How do we use SOM in life
  • The structure of humor
  • The structure of transformation
  • Personal relationships
• Logical SOM patterns
  • Counterexample
  • Paradox, or apply to self

[techtags: NLP, Language, Sleigh of Mouth]

#39 Rapport series 03: Rhythms of Rapport, part 2 - Somatic, orPre-Verbal Rapport

We are continuing our conversations on the rhythms of rapport, and this time we address the somatic – or pre-verbal – aspects of rapport.

• Focus on aspects of the body:
  • Breath
  • Eyes (brain states)
  • Overall body gestures and posture
  • Large group dynamics
  • Idiosyncracies
• Areas:
  • Dancing
  • Business meetings
  • Martial arts
• Name of the podcast: somatic or pre-verbal?
  • Somatic – anything related to the body
  • Pre-verbal – at the primary level, before the language kicks in. Circuits 1 and 2.
• Eye accessing cues
  • Traditional NLP way – up, straigth, down
  • Spacial locations
  • Leading: shifting the locations, moving into different modalities
  • Dance (5Rhythms) – eyes “language”
• Body proper
  • Tracking the impulses that move the body, and replicating that in yours
  • Martial arts (aiki jujutsu) – tracking body as a whole; breathing patterns as expressions; pacing – flowing with a punch, leading – becoming a center and taking control
  • Business meeting face to face – track tentions, match / mirror those, then lead to relaxation
  • People with schizophrenia – enter their world and change it from there
  • Rapport in dance
• Large groups – rapport as a sense of belonging; track how space and time is treated
• Idiosyncrasies – personal signatures, unique self-expressions

[techtags: NLP, Rapport, Language, Verbal, Tracking, Pacing, Leading]

#38 Rapport series 02: Rhythms of Rapport, part 1 - Verbal Rapport

We are continuing a thread that we have started a long, long time ago on Rapport, reconsidering some of the aspects of rapport in a way that is not traditionally taught in NLP – by turning it from a nominalization into a process – a rhythm. Today we start by (re)defining the structure and dynamics of verbal rapport:

• What is a rhythm?
  • Pattern
  • Resonance – as in physics (pendulum) and music (groove)
  • Deeply felt somatic phenomena
  • Matching and mismatching a rhythm
• Tracking, pacing and leading
  • words (backtracking)
  • value words and predicates
  • intent
• Using meta-model to build rapport – not to destroy it
  • Turning a “Meta-Monster” into a “Meta-Friend”
• What to track
  • One on one – words, language patterns
  • Small groups – ocean of rapport, waves
  • Large groups – myths, group fears and hopes

[techtags: NLP, Rapport, Language, Verbal, Tracking, Pacing, Leading]

#32 Language Series 04: Meta-Model - Deletions

This is the third and last podcast on the Meta-Model in this language series, to be followed by Sleight of Mouth patterns, and the Milton Model patterns, each a small series in itself.

In this last Meta-Model talk, we cover the following deletions:

• Ambiguous nouns
• Ambiguous verbs
• Ambiguous adjectives and adverbs
• Unspecified referential index
• Implicit comparisons
• Judgements

As usual, we chose our examples from 3 different areas:

• Politics
• Relationship
• Business operations

And we run each pattern through three examples from each of those areas.

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model, Deletions]

#31 Language Series 03: Meta-Model - Distortions

This is the second in the series of talks on the Meta-Model, where we cover five patterns of distortions:

• Nominalizations
• Modal operators of possibility
• Modal operators of necessity
• Presuppositions
• Mind Reading

As before, we chose our examples from 3 different areas:

• Politics
• Relationship
• Business operations

And we run each pattern through three examples from each of those areas.

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model, Distortions]

#30 Language Series 02: Meta-Model - Generalizations

The meta-model in neuro-linguistic programming (or meta-model of therapy) is a heuristic set of questions designed to specify information, challenge and expand the limits to a person’s model of the world. It responds to the distortions, generalizations, and deletions in the speaker’s language. The meta-model forms the basis of Neuro-linguistic programming […] (Wikipedia)

• What is the Meta-Model?
  • Making the language more specific, understanding what words really mean
  • Tool of precision, a way to understand the maps people build in their heads
  • A way to direct the language
  • The language of precision, a tool to uncover the deep structure, the map
• Using the Meta-Model in everyday life
  • In conflicts
  • Finding the root cause of the problem as a trainer
  • Way to gain deep understanding and direct people to the solutions
• Description of the Meta-Model
  • Brief history
  • Meta-model violations
  • Generalizations, Distortions, Deletions
• Our approach to the Meta-Model: examples from 3 areas
  • Politics
  • Relationships
  • Business operations
• Generalizations – Universal quantifiers
• Complex equivalences
• Cause-effect

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model]

#29 Language Series 01 - an Overview

• Language and NLP
  • NLP – is Neuro-Linguistic Programming – language is a key
  • Language is the habitat we live in, and learn. NLP is learning how to learn.
  • Comparison with “wolf children” – those who don’t have a language
• Language is enfolded in us, and the context unfolds it out of us.
  • Language shapes and creates realities.
  • Ambiguity in words
  • Linguistic relationships that wouldn’t have existed without the language
  • What we think changes what we sort for, and the language is the tool that directionalizes the mind
  • How different languages shift the perceptions of reality
• Pioneering work in Language
  • Alfred Korzibski – connection of language and neurology, language and environment.
    • The map is not the territory (distortion)
    • The map does not represent all of the territory (deletion)
    • Every map is self-reflexive (generalization)
  • Noam Chomsky – transformational grammar. Deep structure and surface structure.
  • NLP: The Meta-Model, the Milton Model, and the Sleight of Mouth
• The structure of the following podcasts in the language series
  (total of 11 podcasts including this one)
  • Three main models, each in three podcasts (total of 9 podcasts):
    • Meta-model
    • Sleight of Mouth patterns
    • Milton model
  • For each model, we pick 3 different contexts, and apply each pattern in each of those contexts
  • The final podcast will tie all the models together

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model, Milton Model, Sleight of Mouth]

#28 Perceptual Positions

Perceptual positions is a neuro-linguistic programming and psychology term denoting that a complex system may look very different, and different information will be available, depending how one looks at it and one’s point of view. (Wikipedia)

• Defining perceptual positions
  • Different points of view
  • Points of reference, different perspectives, way of shifting your outlook, thus changing your experience and understanding of the event
  • The more perspectives you master, the more objective your view of reality becomes
• Four different perceptual positions – more detailed definitions
• Give 3 different frames:
  • Martial arts
  • Relationships
  • Coaching
• Uses of the perceptual positions in NLP: conflict resolution technique
• Expand the frame of perceptual positions
  • – Finding your element, and your life story. Parallels Colin Wilson’s idea of dual consciousness: worm’s eye view and bird’s eye view
  • Perceptual positions as roles: Walt Disney creativity strategy
  • “Board of directors” for your life
• Fun games to develop your skills in perceptual positions
  • Shadow walk exercise
  • Any contact sport

[techtags: NLP, Perceptual Positions, Conflict Resolution, Walt Disney Creativity Strategy]

#27 Designer Swishes

Swish is a novel visualization technique for reducing unwanted habits. The process involves disrupting a pattern of thought that usually leads to an unwanted behavior such that it leads to a desired alternative. (Wikipedia)

This podcast covers the following topics:

• Definitions of swishes
  • Binding a new response to an existing trigger. Most popular NLP way: by changing pictures in your mind.
  • Neural pathways – digging a new “trench”, new circuitry in the brain
  • Triggers can be in different modalities; doing a swish in the driver modality
• Uses of swishes – personal examples
  • Martial arts: practicing movements at inappropriate times
  • Not being able to take praise
  • Building social confidence
• Guided experience of a visual swish
• Discussion of the NLP swish
• Expanding the frame of the swish
  • Dance, 5Rhymths by Gabrielle Roth
  • “Fool’s dance” – a series of movements in monomyth workshop
  • Movement towards our highest potential

[techtags: NLP, Swish, 5Rhythms, Dance, Monomyth]

#26 Advanced Anchoring

This episode assumes familiarity with the basic ideas of anchoring. For the initial introduction, please first listen to the earlier podcast on anchoring (episode #6).

In this podcast, we cover the following advanced anchoring topics:

• Sliding anchors and their uses
  • Increasing or decreasing an anchored state
  • Creating “emotional cocktails”
  • The Circle of Excellence technique
  • Auditory sliding anchors in dancing
  • Public speaking
• Stacking anchors
  • Circle of excellence: putting different states into the same place (anchor)
  • Stacking anchors at a family dinner table
  • Stacking anchors in a business setting
• Chaining anchors
  • Typically for transitions between very different states, breaking it up into smaller steps
  • Setting up one state to be the anchor for triggering the next
  • Examples:
    • Confusion to clarity
    • Loss of a loved one – from denial to acceptance
    • Denial of knowledge – from frustration to curiousity and commitment / learning state
• Spatial anchors
  • Martial art forms
  • Arguments in relationships
  • Addressing groups
  • Dictionary of anchors
• Borrowing, or stealing anchors
• Weaving it all together

[techtags: NLP, anchoring, sliding anchors, stacking anchors, chaining anchors, spatial anchors, borrowing anchors, stealing anchors]

#25 Belief Systems

Belief is the psychological state in which an individual holds a proposition or premise to be true. (Wikipedia)

Relevant meaning of Belief System refers to World View (Wikipedia). It refers to the framework of ideas and beliefs through which an individual interprets the world and interacts in it.

In this podcast, we cover the following topics:

• The three perspectives we are taking:
  • Knowledge engineering
  • Perception engineering
  • Intelligence engineering
• Defining what beliefs are
• How beliefs are useful
  • From learning specific skills to a more general discussion on morality and ethics
• Tracking beliefs
• Constructing new beliefs
• Deconstructing and changing beliefs
• Specific NLP tools for changing beliefs
  • NLP “reimprinting” process
  • Swish pattern
  • Submodalities

[techtags: belief systems, changing beliefs, NLP, world view, knowledge engineering, perception engineering, intelligence]

#16 States of Consciousness

• What states are, and why we should pay attention to them?
  • Gestalt of neurology of the mind and the body
  • State change work in NLP – one of those all-purpose concepts
  • State control, especially kinesthetic
• States are like a computer program
• Why have conscious control over the states?
  • Different states have different intelligences imbibed in them. Learning is state-dependent, and there is a purpose for each state and intelligence
  • Learning to ride a bike
  • Relationships
  • Being a leader in business or politics
• State Syntax
  • Definitions of a state:
  • Neurology of the body, position
  • Internal neurology – chemicals, foods
  • Kinds of thoughts, words, inner dialogue
  • Emotions
  • Submodalities
• What we pay attention to – calibration
  • Feelings in the body and how they move
  • How your body is positioned and how it moves
  • Breathing
• Exercise: map out a list of emotions
• How to gain conscious control of the states
  • Anchor the states
  • The Swish pattern
    • Visual
    • Auditory
    • Kinesthetic
    • Combining all three
• Designer states
  • Emotional bar – an equalizer deck for emotions
  • Guided exercise with 3 dimensions (three emotions)
  • How many more dimensions would you like to add to your mind?

  [techtags: NLP, States, State control, emotions, ]