#39 Rapport series 03: Rhythms of Rapport, part 2 - Somatic, orPre-Verbal Rapport

We are continuing our conversations on the rhythms of rapport, and this time we address the somatic – or pre-verbal – aspects of rapport.

• Focus on aspects of the body:
  • Breath
  • Eyes (brain states)
  • Overall body gestures and posture
  • Large group dynamics
  • Idiosyncracies
• Areas:
  • Dancing
  • Business meetings
  • Martial arts
• Name of the podcast: somatic or pre-verbal?
  • Somatic – anything related to the body
  • Pre-verbal – at the primary level, before the language kicks in. Circuits 1 and 2.
• Eye accessing cues
  • Traditional NLP way – up, straigth, down
  • Spacial locations
  • Leading: shifting the locations, moving into different modalities
  • Dance (5Rhythms) – eyes “language”
• Body proper
  • Tracking the impulses that move the body, and replicating that in yours
  • Martial arts (aiki jujutsu) – tracking body as a whole; breathing patterns as expressions; pacing – flowing with a punch, leading – becoming a center and taking control
  • Business meeting face to face – track tentions, match / mirror those, then lead to relaxation
  • People with schizophrenia – enter their world and change it from there
  • Rapport in dance
• Large groups – rapport as a sense of belonging; track how space and time is treated
• Idiosyncrasies – personal signatures, unique self-expressions

[techtags: NLP, Rapport, Language, Verbal, Tracking, Pacing, Leading]

#38 Rapport series 02: Rhythms of Rapport, part 1 - Verbal Rapport

We are continuing a thread that we have started a long, long time ago on Rapport, reconsidering some of the aspects of rapport in a way that is not traditionally taught in NLP – by turning it from a nominalization into a process – a rhythm. Today we start by (re)defining the structure and dynamics of verbal rapport:

• What is a rhythm?
  • Pattern
  • Resonance – as in physics (pendulum) and music (groove)
  • Deeply felt somatic phenomena
  • Matching and mismatching a rhythm
• Tracking, pacing and leading
  • words (backtracking)
  • value words and predicates
  • intent
• Using meta-model to build rapport – not to destroy it
  • Turning a “Meta-Monster” into a “Meta-Friend”
• What to track
  • One on one – words, language patterns
  • Small groups – ocean of rapport, waves
  • Large groups – myths, group fears and hopes

[techtags: NLP, Rapport, Language, Verbal, Tracking, Pacing, Leading]

#2 Rapport series 01 - the Art of Getting in Sync

Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective, being in “sync”, being on the same wavelength as the person you are talking to. (Wikipedia)

Today’s topics include:

• What is Rapport?
• Why is Rapport Important?
• Mechanisms of Rapport
• Levels of Rapport (body, language, values & beliefs, symbolic)
• Neuro-biology of Rapport – mirror neurons
• Rapport with Groups
• Breaking Rapport
• Rapport Exercises

[techtags:  NLP, Rapport, Influence, Communication, Language, Beliefs, Values, Symbolic, Iconic]