#43 Language Series 07: Sleight of Mouth Patterns - part 3

In this episode we are concluding the Sleight of Mouth patterns with the Alogical, or as we also call it Analogical, or Metaphorical SOM pattern.

• The Alogical SOM Pattern
  • Utilizes many different skills – metaphorical, hypnotic, by-passes logical objections
• 3 examples of the alogical pattern
• Explanations of the metaphors
• How do we use alogical SOM pattern in real life
• The Ultimate SOM Pattern

[techtags: NLP, Language, Sleigh of Mouth]

#42 Language Series 06: Sleight of Mouth Patterns - part 2

In this episode, we explain and give examples of the “neurological” SOM patterns, the second class of SOMs in our classification.

• Neurological Levels and SOM
  • SOM at the level of intent – capture the fort and rule the territory
  • Any level higher than the level of the problem can solve the problem
• Examples of using neurological levels – three examples of limiting beliefs and an application of the SOM pattern.
• Exercises
• Changing the frame size (level of detail): chunk up / chunk down
  • What it is, and three examples of SOM

[techtags: NLP, Language, Sleigh of Mouth]

#41 Language Series 05: Sleight of Mouth Patterns - part 1

From Wikipedia: Ultimately, Sleight of Mouth focuses on influence by challenging, and thus changing, beliefs. […] in Sleight of Mouth the concept of belief is built on a more specific set of definitions, as follows:

• Complex Equivalence: X=Y, or X is equivalent to Y
• Cause-Effect: X causes Y, X results in Y

In this episode, we define the sleight of mouth patterns, introduce our own classification, and show the first group of these patterns – the “logical” SOM.

• What are SOMs?
  • Verbal Aiki – Flowing, harmonizing
  • If meta-model is about getting information, SOM is utilizing and directionalizing it
• Our categorization of SOM
  • Logical SOM
  • Neurological SOM
  • Alogical SOM
• History of SOM patterns
  • Robert Dilts modeling and codifying Richard Bandler
• How do we use SOM in life
  • The structure of humor
  • The structure of transformation
  • Personal relationships
• Logical SOM patterns
  • Counterexample
  • Paradox, or apply to self

[techtags: NLP, Language, Sleigh of Mouth]

#32 Language Series 04: Meta-Model - Deletions

This is the third and last podcast on the Meta-Model in this language series, to be followed by Sleight of Mouth patterns, and the Milton Model patterns, each a small series in itself.

In this last Meta-Model talk, we cover the following deletions:

• Ambiguous nouns
• Ambiguous verbs
• Ambiguous adjectives and adverbs
• Unspecified referential index
• Implicit comparisons
• Judgements

As usual, we chose our examples from 3 different areas:

• Politics
• Relationship
• Business operations

And we run each pattern through three examples from each of those areas.

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model, Deletions]

#31 Language Series 03: Meta-Model - Distortions

This is the second in the series of talks on the Meta-Model, where we cover five patterns of distortions:

• Nominalizations
• Modal operators of possibility
• Modal operators of necessity
• Presuppositions
• Mind Reading

As before, we chose our examples from 3 different areas:

• Politics
• Relationship
• Business operations

And we run each pattern through three examples from each of those areas.

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model, Distortions]

#30 Language Series 02: Meta-Model - Generalizations

The meta-model in neuro-linguistic programming (or meta-model of therapy) is a heuristic set of questions designed to specify information, challenge and expand the limits to a person’s model of the world. It responds to the distortions, generalizations, and deletions in the speaker’s language. The meta-model forms the basis of Neuro-linguistic programming […] (Wikipedia)

• What is the Meta-Model?
  • Making the language more specific, understanding what words really mean
  • Tool of precision, a way to understand the maps people build in their heads
  • A way to direct the language
  • The language of precision, a tool to uncover the deep structure, the map
• Using the Meta-Model in everyday life
  • In conflicts
  • Finding the root cause of the problem as a trainer
  • Way to gain deep understanding and direct people to the solutions
• Description of the Meta-Model
  • Brief history
  • Meta-model violations
  • Generalizations, Distortions, Deletions
• Our approach to the Meta-Model: examples from 3 areas
  • Politics
  • Relationships
  • Business operations
• Generalizations – Universal quantifiers
• Complex equivalences
• Cause-effect

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model]

#29 Language Series 01 - an Overview

• Language and NLP
  • NLP – is Neuro-Linguistic Programming – language is a key
  • Language is the habitat we live in, and learn. NLP is learning how to learn.
  • Comparison with “wolf children” – those who don’t have a language
• Language is enfolded in us, and the context unfolds it out of us.
  • Language shapes and creates realities.
  • Ambiguity in words
  • Linguistic relationships that wouldn’t have existed without the language
  • What we think changes what we sort for, and the language is the tool that directionalizes the mind
  • How different languages shift the perceptions of reality
• Pioneering work in Language
  • Alfred Korzibski – connection of language and neurology, language and environment.
    • The map is not the territory (distortion)
    • The map does not represent all of the territory (deletion)
    • Every map is self-reflexive (generalization)
  • Noam Chomsky – transformational grammar. Deep structure and surface structure.
  • NLP: The Meta-Model, the Milton Model, and the Sleight of Mouth
• The structure of the following podcasts in the language series
  (total of 11 podcasts including this one)
  • Three main models, each in three podcasts (total of 9 podcasts):
    • Meta-model
    • Sleight of Mouth patterns
    • Milton model
  • For each model, we pick 3 different contexts, and apply each pattern in each of those contexts
  • The final podcast will tie all the models together

[techtags: NLP, Language, Meta-Model, Milton Model, Sleight of Mouth]

#7 Nested Loops - Stories within Stories within Stories...

We briefly define what nested loops are, then each of us tells a different story, by embedding one story into the story of others. Once the stories unwind themselves, and you slowly start coming back from the enchantment of the trance, we tell you another story about the nested loops, discuss their practical applications, and close the session with parting thoughts about nested loops.

[techtags: NLP, Nested Loops, metaphors, story telling, change work]

#5 The Power of Language - and Going Beyond

Communication – Using Language and Going Beyond

Communication is a process that allows organisms to exchange information by several methods. Communication requires that all parties understand a common language that is exchanged. A language is a system of symbols and the rules used to manipulate them. Language can also refer to the use of such systems as a general phenomenon. Though commonly used as a means of communication among people, human language is only one instance of this phenomenon. (Wikipedia)

This introductory podcast spans a range of topics:

• What Is Language?
• The Structure of Language
• Communicating with Others
• Weaving Spells (Who is Milton Erickson?)
• Breaking Spells – Meta-Model and Modeling
  • Uncovering lost meaning, disambiguating language
  • Resolving conflicts in relationships
  • Modeling excellence
• Sleight of Mouth – the Language Patterns
• Communicating with Self
  • Negation
  • Congruity
  • Shame
  • Metaphors & Stories
• Communicating with the Universe
  • Manifesting thoughts
  • The power of intent
  • The higher purpose

[techtags: NLP, Language patterns, Milton Model, Meta Model, Sleight of Mouth, SOM, Communication]

#4 Learning to Listen - Literal, Structural & Mythical Listening

Main Entry: ¹lis·ten From the Webster Dictionary
Pronunciation: 'li-s^&n
Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): lis·tened; lis·ten·ing /'lis-ni[ng], 'li-s^&n-i[ng]/
Etymology: Middle English listnen, from Old English hlysnan; akin to Sanskrit srosati he hears, Old English hlud loud
transitive verb, archaic : to give ear to : HEAR
intransitive verb
1 : to pay attention to sound <listen to music>
2 : to hear something with thoughtful attention : give consideration <listen to a plea>
3 : to be alert to catch an expected sound <listen for his step>

The topics we cover in this podcast are:

• Three ways of listening – literal, structural, mythical
• Bohmian Dialogue
• Our stories about listening
• Organ Language
• Metaphors
• Modality Words
• Backtracking
• Somatic Listening
• Facial Expressions
• Autism
• Listening Strategies
• Beliefs about Listening
• Cultural Listening

[techtags: NLP, Calibration, Listening, Bohmian Dialogue, Modality words, Somatic, Tracking ]